2008 was a hard year for most people with the world economy in a terrible financial crisis. In July is when my unimaginable crisis began… My husband, Jay, went hiking and never returned. Surprisingly, I was now a widow with 6 young children. This was NOT what I was expecting from life. I had no idea how to navigate this.
The first few weeks I had so many sweet people call, text, and visit. I Didn’t Know how to do this- I was emotionally exhausted. My Niece Suggested I Create A Blog To Share What Was Going On In our Life– This Way People Could Read My Blog And I Could Give My time and attention to my kids. So I Started Blogging Every Monday. I Really Enjoyed Writing My Feelings And Found It Healing.
As other people had the same tragedy happen to them, they reached out to me for advice. I started adding this advice to my blog hoping to help in any way I can.
If sharing my experiences can help one person in need, count me in!
Today I am happier Than I have Ever Been
My miracle happened when my children introduced me to their friend’s dad, Matt, who also lost his wife in 2008. Our families loved the time we shared together. We all became best friends and hung out a lot. Matt and I got closer and our friendship turned to love. We were married in 2009 and have 9 children together, so I also blog about blending.
Matt and I have 9 children all together. With this large blended family brings more experiences, challenges, and mouth dropping moments! Each day we look at each other, laugh and say, “Wow, I didn’t see that one coming!” We were thinking just the other day that we haven’t had a normal date in 10 years. Well, I guess none of this has been NORMAL -whatever that is. I stopped blogging after about a year so I could try to put all the pieces of my heart together. I’ve had a lot to sort through, so Matt has been my awesome, hourly, life coach.
Now that I am healing, I have come back to personal blogging and writing openly about my past, my now and the future I want to create. Some people say I have lived a hard life, but I say it’s an incredible life- full of experience and I wouldn’t be who I am today without them. Others have asked me why I am writing it now and the answer is I feel compelled to do so. I agree- it would be easier to just march forward, but in the past are the lessons that I don’t ever want to forget. My hope is that my thoughts will give confidence to others knowing their trials can have a positive outcome, even though it may not feel like it at the time. Most importantly- You are NOT alone.