A common question is asked in my widow groups, “Is it possible to love again?” It’s a good question because most people put all the love they have into their spouse,then when that person is gone, the love feels lost.This can happen with a divorce, too. It seems the heart may be broken forever. Well […]
After 14 years of blending families, 88% of our kids still talk to us. That’s a B+ and I guess I can be pretty happy with that.What brought this to my attention is a friend who is new at blending a family. He now has a bunch of kids trying to figure out how to […]
Holidays are something that you probably used to look forward to. Now that your spouse or loved one is no longer with you, it is something that you may worry about for months, maybe even dread. Holidays and grief are hard to mix! I have written some things I have learned about the holidays… Let’s […]
Healing is a journey. At many points in the past decade, I felt like I was healed from the trauma of Jay’s death. Then something comes up that I need to look at again and I realize that healing is not a destination- it’s a journey of learning more and more about myself. When I […]
TURN THE BLENDER ON PULSE (What my heart has learned): ~ We all are given so much emotional energy each day. If we use it up before 7 am dealing with crying and ‘she took my shirt’, then the rest of the day is going to be tough. We have all learned through death that […]
I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since he died. Wow, an entire decade! In some ways, it feels like a year ago, in some ways it feels like it was a different lifetime. It’s interesting how the stages of grief feel as you get further down the path of moving forward. It’s been difficult […]
I believe in miracles. About 6 months after my husband died my kids told me about friends they had in their school classes that they wanted to hang out with because they were also going through loss. They had lost their mom to cancer. I knew exactly who they were talking about because I had […]
Growing up, my life was filled with love and Disney shows. My favorite princess was Cinderella. It’s funny how I imagined my life would go. I never thought life would be hard- no, it’s like a fairy tale (well I only pictured the end of the fairy tale!) It seems to me that so […]
Anyone that says blending two families into one is easy, is pulling your leg. It’s actually pulling your heartstrings. It feels like I’M IN A BLENDER. What it is like to blend families… A little background… I never expected to be blending families. Probably nobody does. But in 2008 the unexpected happened… my husband passed […]
Bulletproof sounds like a good thing- right? It can’t be hurt, things just bounce off of you and you don’t feel it. There are a couple of popular songs that talk about being BULLETPROOF. One of them by La Roux is about a girl whose heart had been hurt, so she told herself she was […]
When You Know Better You Do Better. Maya Angelou. This is my favorite ah-ha for the year so far. Maybe for life! I realize I have made a lot of mistakes in my life. Some things I knew I shouldn’t be doing just because. But what is JUST BECAUSE? That doesn’t really work for me. […]
7 years ago I felt like I was in a boxing match and wasn’t even aware I was in the game. I thought I was a bystander just watching life pass me by. Ilooked the other way but someone pushed me in the arena, and I was slammed to the ground. I was KNOCKED OUT […]
When I was a teen our home was hit by lightning. I was inside and heard the intensebang, then watched the hair on my arms stand up on end! There was an interesting fragrance like something was roasting. My heart was racing and there was an eerie feeling with a strange energy. I had never […]
For a few years after my husband’s death I felt like I was sitting on the sidelines watching life pass me by. Grief does interesting things to you and I knew I had to be really patient with myself. It was ok to nurse my wounds for a little bit and get healthy within ( […]
The past few years I have taken the opportunity to step back and try to understand life. I feel like I was given a break to stop, back up and look around. I questioned, “Why do people do the things they do? Why do I do the things I do?” I had to understand what […]
