It’s common for people to ask, “How are you?” But when you are a new widow, sometimes it is hard to know what to say back. Are they really wondering- an actual interest, or is it just what people say as a greeting? Answering the question, […]
When do I take off my wedding ring? This is the question I see the most. The answer may seem simple, but there are so many dimensions to this- just like a diamond. Everyone feels differently about who should wear a wedding ring, where they should […]
My new widow friend just called me and said “He passed away! What do I do with his things?” Ouch. That hurts my heart because I remember going through this myself. I didn’t do anything with most of it until more than a year after his passing. His office, closet, and bathroom were the hardest […]
Why Didn’t God Take Me Instead? This is a very common question to ask. We ask this question and many more because our brain is trying to process what happened. Our brain’s main function is to protect us, so it’s doing its job trying to figure out how you could have fixed this or […]
Oh, I found out I didn’t fix all my perfectionism on that breakdown I had in 2000. I’ve had other times where I had to become real- like when my husband passed away. A few days after Jay passed away, one of my lifelong best friends, Becky, came over to visit with me. She knows […]
I have heard people say that if everyone were to put their challenges in a pile, then you could choose a few, you would look at all of the choices, then pick out the ones you put in the pile, to begin with. Are you crazy? Haha, I would choose the person who is […]
Most households have a ton of paperwork- such as mail, kids’ homework, memories, important documents, etc. I felt the amount of paperwork after my husband passed away tripled in size! What in the world? Are you kidding me?! I already couldn’t concentrate- what am I supposed to do with all of these documents and everything?! […]
Widow’s fog is another thing I didn’t hear about until I was a widow. What in the world is Widow’s Fog? It feels like you are in a dream, a nightmare maybe, where nothing is clear. Nope- not your mind, your hearing, your feelings or your windshield. I seriously felt like I was walking around […]
I was listening to the audiobook THRIVE, by Ariana Huffington and she was talking about what people say in eulogies. Interesting to think about. Usually, the talk is not about how much money they made, the big toys they had, or how they had to go over the report one more time and missed their […]
I asked my friends and family if they had any advice for my friend who is going to turn 30. They gave me 25 great ideas… What advice would you give your 30-year-old self? 1. You don’t have to do everything perfectly. 2. Lighten up. 3. Have fun. 4. Cherish your kids at every […]
