It was interesting to hear what people said to my children after they lost their dad. I was glad they said something, but I realized people do not know what to say. Losing a parent is a confusing and emotional experience for a young child. It’s important to approach the situation with sensitivity and understanding. Here are a few things you might consider saying to offer comfort and support:

Marcie Coleman Holland

“I’m so sorry for your loss. I know it’s really hard right now, and it’s okay to feel sad.”

“It’s okay to talk about your feelings. I’m here to listen whenever you want to talk.”

“Your mom/dad loved you so much, and they’ll always be with you in your heart and in your memories.”

“We’re all here for you, and we love you very much. If you ever need anything, we’re ready to help. Is there something that sounds good to you right now- a favorite food? Activity?”

“It’s okay to cry and to miss your mom/dad. I cry a lot. We all miss them too.”

Remember that each child processes grief differently, so it’s important to be patient and supportive as they navigate this difficult time. If possible, encourage them to express their emotions and offer them reassurance that they are not alone. If you’re the adult in their life, you could consider seeking professional help when necessary to ensure the child receives the support they need.

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