I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since he died. Wow, an entire decade! In some ways, it feels like a year ago, in some ways it feels like it was a different lifetime. It’s interesting how the stages of grief feel as you get further down the path of moving forward. It’s been difficult […]
Nobody wants to be a tattle tale or be someone who can’t be trusted with secrets. But what if it is a really important life-and-death secret? I was 17 and my friend told me he wanted to commit suicide. I was good at secret keeping and had no idea what to do with this information. […]
Not everyone has a major event in their life that causes grief- thank goodness. I didn’t even recognize how much mourning I had done over the years until I studied grief. Yes, I did have a major event that caused heartache and luckily while trying to move forward I studied despair. I found out I […]
For my birthday this year I made a few new goals. One is a physical goal- work out at least 30 minutes per day. Another is to lift someone each day (haha -not physically but emotionally). I have found the best kept secret to be happy today is to make someone else smile. I promise […]
This could be an entire book, but for now, let’s look at the basics of children’s grief. Children and loss– Kids don’t have experiences or resources in knowing how to deal with death. That’s our duty is to teach them, probably right along with ourselves, how to do this in the most healthy way. Unfortunately […]
There is a quote that many of us have heard, “TIME HEALS.” I do not think this is completely correct. Time is certainly an interesting thing. I know countless people that are still in deep mourning after years and decades after a loss of a loved one. There are also people that think you should […]
Acceptance is a word that doesn’t mix very well with the word death. It seems by saying that I accept this death that I’m ok with what has happened. That is not true. Acceptance is confused with ok with what happened and I don’t think anyone feels loss was justified or that they like this […]
You have probably heard of the poem describing a person’s life, “Footprints in the sand”. In a dream a man sees scenes from his life and saw two sets of footprints in the sand. One belonged to the person, one to the Lord. He noticed that many times along the path of life, there was […]
I’m sure this song hits everyone in some way. We probably all have been told at some point to hide our scars. We may think that no one will love us as we are. Well this song will help you know that you are beautiful just the way you are and worthy of everything- especially […]
Life is a balancing act, isn’t it? How do you balance everything- families, hobbies, health, spirituality, work? Yoga taught me balance. I learned it changes every day. Most days are not balanced for me- I have to look at my life from a bird’s eye point of view to see if there is some kind […]
When I went through the loss of my husband and the healing that goes along with suicide I found a few music artists that I connected strongly with. Kelly Clarkson is one of those. I love her song Piece by Piece. It’s a song that hits close to home. At the beginning of my healing […]
Boundaries. Yeah- Another thing I get to learn in this journey. Isn’t this fun that every day I find something else I need to get better at? I must have skipped class when we learned about creating healthy boundaries. I thought being nice was the most important thing in the whole world and let people […]
A long time ago, it seems like a lifetime ago, I had a will done. Yes, way back in 2002 Jay and I bought “I will make you a will” from a lawyer at a Scout Fundraiser. We had heard you were supposed to, so this was our chance. If anything happens to me, Jay […]
I didn’t even realize that bargaining was a stage when I went through it. This happened a couple of weeks after the funeral when I would do anything not to feel this pain. The beginning looked something like IF ONLY’s and WHAT IF’s IF ONLY I had planned something to do that day so he […]
Bring on the guilt – loud and strong! Here it is- feelings of relief that they are gone. What in the world is going on?! This is a really confusing stage. This feels completely WRONG. I remember thinking I must be a terrible person to have these thoughts. Seriously I can’t believe that entered my […]
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