A common question is asked in my widow groups, “Is it possible to love again?” It’s a good question because most people put all the love they have into their spouse,then when that person is gone, the love feels lost.This can happen with a divorce, too. It seems the heart may be broken forever. Well […]
Here are the three steps to process grief and become whole: 1. Acknowledge and Embrace Your Feelings: Recognize and accept your emotions, allowing yourself to grieve without judgment. 2. Seek Support and Connection: Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, or a professional counselor to help you through the grieving process. 3. Engage […]
After 14 years of blending families, 88% of our kids still talk to us. That’s a B+ and I guess I can be pretty happy with that.What brought this to my attention is a friend who is new at blending a family. He now has a bunch of kids trying to figure out how to […]
I have been in two marriages and someone asked me, “Do you think Matt is your soul mate?” I have a lot of thoughts that surround this. How do you define soulmate- do we only have one? So is Matt my soulmate? I believe YES! But it depends on your definition of SOULMATE. Let me […]
Do you feel there is so much drama out there with everyone and everything? Stress is high and so much negativity in the world. Please let me unsubscribe from the drama! I have figured out how I can. I start with meditation which helps me to not think about the past or the future. It’s […]
Healing is a journey. At many points in the past decade, I felt like I was healed from the trauma of Jay’s death. Then something comes up that I need to look at again and I realize that healing is not a destination- it’s a journey of learning more and more about myself. When I […]
This took me a long time to figure out, but I finally learned it feels much better inside to take responsibility for my own life. Once I took control, I could lead the life I wanted. I figured out that I get to choose most of it. If I looked deep and without judgment, […]
TURN THE BLENDER ON PULSE (What my heart has learned): ~ We all are given so much emotional energy each day. If we use it up before 7 am dealing with crying and ‘she took my shirt’, then the rest of the day is going to be tough. We have all learned through death that […]
I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since he died. Wow, an entire decade! In some ways, it feels like a year ago, in some ways it feels like it was a different lifetime. It’s interesting how the stages of grief feel as you get further down the path of moving forward. It’s been difficult […]
Growing up, my life was filled with love and Disney shows. My favorite princess was Cinderella. It’s funny how I imagined my life would go. I never thought life would be hard- no, it’s like a fairy tale (well I only pictured the end of the fairy tale!) It seems to me that so […]
Have you ever been on the ride MANTA at Sea World San Diego? A few years ago our kids were waiting patiently for this ride to open. We were there opening week. The ride, much like any roller coaster ride, felt like my life story! Waiting in line forever must be how I felt before […]
Anyone that says blending two families into one is easy, is pulling your leg. It’s actually pulling your heartstrings. It feels like I’M IN A BLENDER. What it is like to blend families… A little background… I never expected to be blending families. Probably nobody does. But in 2008 the unexpected happened… my husband passed […]
Bulletproof sounds like a good thing- right? It can’t be hurt, things just bounce off of you and you don’t feel it. There are a couple of popular songs that talk about being BULLETPROOF. One of them by La Roux is about a girl whose heart had been hurt, so she told herself she was […]
When You Know Better You Do Better. Maya Angelou. This is my favorite ah-ha for the year so far. Maybe for life! I realize I have made a lot of mistakes in my life. Some things I knew I shouldn’t be doing just because. But what is JUST BECAUSE? That doesn’t really work for me. […]
My future is just like yours, a blank canvas. What am I going to stand up and live for? I have no idea what is coming my way, but I believe it’s going to be good. Good in what way- every way because I believe what happens to me can always be used for […]
