The decision of when to start dating again after the loss of a spouse is deeply personal and can vary widely from person to person. There is no specific timeline or “correct” amount of time that a widow should wait before dating again. Some people may feel ready to date relatively soon after their loss, […]
Losing a loved one is undoubtedly one of the most challenging experiences anyone can face. The pain of grief can feel overwhelming, consuming, and unrelenting. It’s a journey through darkness, where the weight of loss can seem insurmountable. However, amidst the darkness, there can be unexpected gifts waiting to be discovered. Let’s explore the profound […]
“Beauty for ashes” is a phrase derived from the Bible. It’s a reminder that from the ashes of despair, beauty and healing can emerge. Isaiah 61:3 reads, “To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit […]
Individuals who have experienced the loss of a spouse are acutely aware of the value of what they have. Widows embrace gratitude and refuse to take anything for granted. They are appreciative of the people and things in their lives and are less likely to overlook or underestimate their significance. Not taking anything for granted […]
Few things in life are as devastating as the loss of a spouse. Although the intensity of grief may lessen over time, it is not likely to disappear completely. You will learn to live with it and find ways to cope. It is not unusual to feel waves of grief at unexpected times, such as […]
Sexual intimacy after the death of a spouse can be a deeply personal and sensitive topic. Each person’s experience and feelings about intimacy and relationships after the loss of a spouse are unique and can be influenced by a variety of factors, including the nature of the relationship with the deceased spouse, cultural and religious […]
The experience of being a widow offers a unique perspective on life and the world. While each individual’s experience is different, some common themes often emerge from the wisdom of widows: 1. **Resilience and Strength**: Widows often develop a deep sense of resilience and inner strength as they navigate the emotional and practical challenges of […]
After my husband passed away I was hoping problems would just go away and all of a sudden become better. But without effort and seeking help and wanting a change, life is going to keep giving you what you put in. Some say this as “You Reap What You Sow” Or “Cause and effect” Or […]
It took me quite a few years to change my perception of my life as a victim. I had felt safe in the pain of being a victim. People felt sorry for me. I didn’t have to do anything I didn’t want to do because I was the poor casualty. Nobody was going to change […]
I have heard people say that if everyone were to put their challenges in a pile, then you could choose a few, you would look at all of the choices, then pick out the ones you put in the pile, to begin with. Are you crazy? Haha, I would choose the person who is on […]
It took me a few years to be able to concentrate enough to read again. My son who was 17 gave me a book he read for school and said it was easy and I would love it. It was “Heaven is for Real.” He was right- I loved it. Then I realized my brain […]
The heart is an amazing organ. It does have physical pain. When my husband died, my heart hurt. It felt like it was bleeding– physically painful. I would hold my hands over my heart and tell it, “It’s okay. Please hang in there!” Oh, it hurt so bad. I had heard that someone’s heart can […]
Something grabbed my attention last week when we were on an airplane. As always, right when we got in our seats, the flight attendant was giving out instructions on how to use the equipment in an emergency. I looked around to see that nobody was really paying attention. I’m surprised I was because I had […]
I have been through some things in life and needed some time to think through– like YEARS to process! I didn’t even realize until now that we created a homemade cocoon. A safe house. One that only the people who live here could be inside. Matt and I with our children- learning and growing. So […]
I turned on my old ipod this morning and out popped this song from years ago- Yesterday, by Leona Lewis. I listened to it a lot in 2008, when Jay, my husband, first passed away. It was a song I listened to over and over and cried. That kind of sounds like a dumb thing […]