Boundaries. Yeah- Another thing I get to learn in this journey. Isn’t this fun that every day I find something else I need to get better at? I must have skipped class when we learned about creating healthy boundaries. I thought being nice was the most important thing in the whole world and let people […]
I didn’t even realize that bargaining was a stage when I went through it. This happened a couple of weeks after the funeral when I would do anything not to feel this pain. The beginning looked something like IF ONLY’s and WHAT IF’s IF ONLY I had planned something to do that day so he […]
Bring on the guilt – loud and strong! Here it is- feelings of relief that they are gone. What in the world is going on?! This is a really confusing stage. This feels completely WRONG. I remember thinking I must be a terrible person to have these thoughts. Seriously I can’t believe that entered my […]
Rule #1: Don’t Compare Loss. When your loved one dies, it is common to hear people trying to comfort each other by saying, “I know how you feel because I lost…” Hearing these things really didn’t make me feel any better. It was hard for me to imagine that anyone could know how I felt […]
Like the message says- it takes a tribe to raise someone, I believe it because I have seen it in my very own life. I have learned that when I need something I cannot do it alone and I need my team. I was telling my daughter that I feel like I have a team […]
Happy New Year! Try something you’ve never done before- something fun, new and exciting! When my husband passed away I decided this life is to LIVE. Seeing death so up close and personal made me look at life from a completely different perspective. Seriously, we never know how much longer we will be here, so […]
Days after Jay passed away I went to the doctor. I have had arthritis for years and when there is a ton of stress in my life I get a shot in my SI joint. It’s no small shot- it’s a 45-minute ordeal where they watch on x-ray equipment to get the needle in the […]
In the dictionary closure is a bringing to an end, the state of being closed. In death, there isn’t complete closure. At least I haven’t seen it in the living. I know our families and neighbors want us to move on because it’s driving them crazy to see us heartbroken. They say, Haven’t you found […]
Suicide has a different effect on a family than other causes of death. There is a stigma surrounding suicide and it makes everything so awkward. My family has seen the good bad and ugly of suicide. To tell you the truth, I haven’t seen much good except letting others know and being aware of what […]
Having gratitude is something we hear all the time. It gets so redundant, that sometimes it’s hard to believe it has any power. But there is actual science behind being grateful. The biggest thing I have learned is that a person cannot be grateful and have fear at the same time. Your brain can’t feel […]
My heart breaks today because a friend of mine, Lisa Mathews passed away this morning. She is Mitch’s mom, a fighting cancer warrior, a trainer at The Treehouse Athletic Club and an all out, amazing lady. I hope her family finds peace in this incredibly hard time. She is going to be greatly missed. I […]
This is a good one! I know sometimes we want to go back and capture all of our memories and this is a song about that. I love how it talks about having some memories that aren’t so sweet, but we have to know some bad times or our life is incomplete. I do know […]
Love this one. Especially when I need something to bring me up and make me feel like I AM NOT A VICTIM! “Catch my breath, no one can hold me back! I ain’t got time for that” . \. Catch My Breath ~ Kelly Clarkson . I don’t wanna be left behind Distance was a […]
Oh, this is the best song! I will protect you. From all around you. I will be here. Don’t you cry. You’ll be in my heart. From this day on, now and forever more! . . You’ll Be In My Heart ~ Phil Collins Come stop your crying It will be alright Just take my […]
Miracles Hapen (When You Believe) by Myra Miracles happen, miracles happen You showed me faith is not blind I don’t need wings to help me fly Miracles happen, miracles happen . I can’t imagine living my life without you now Not ever having you around We found our way out (On you I can depend) […]
